Saturday, December 16, 2017

My Christmas wish

I have the same Christmas wish as the last year and the year before.
I would love to get an email from you.
To learn who you are. 
Where you come from.
Why you read my blog.
What my blog means to you. 

I promise I will not publish your emails, nor misuse them in any way.

My email: klara.soncek (at) gmail.com


I am looking forward to Christmas :)
I loved receiving emails last December from literally all around the world!  


PS: on the photo: our capital, Ljubljana, with Christmas lights. It is very pretty! Photo was taken few days ago when having mulled wine (=tradition here) with coworkers.

Friday, December 15, 2017

December









Since I try to save as much money as possible for "our little house" project, this year my husband and I didn't spend a lot for our holidays. The only overnight stays that we paid were 2 nights while cycling in Austria.

And yet, I am fortunate to have a job where I can travel often. I have just returned from Italy. Italy in December with all the Christmas lights is just beautiful! 

I have been doing really well this December. Not that many years ago, when in the darkest years of my infertility, I really suffered in December. Now I am getting my life back which means I am enjoying December.

There are moments that hurt (and there always will be).  Like feeling trapped in work lunch where all women are in the age group 30 - 45 and all they can talk is about their children's school and homeworks. Not long ago I would be depressed for days after.

Now I just thought it is sad for them if they are not capable of any other theme than this.

Me for example:
- I don't even mention my beloved Wolf to people who are dogless :)
- I don't talk about my husband, about beautiful things we did together previous weekend to my girlfriends who are single
- I don't talk about nice afternoon that I spent with my brother to a friend whose brother passed away or to a friend who lost her brother because of possessive sister-in-low
- I don't talk about beautiful gardening days that I spent in summer with my mom to friends whose mothers sadly passed away
- I don't talk about my plans to travel to a) Paris and Normandy and Provance and b) New Zealand as soon as the house is built and at least partly paid off  to friends who earn very little and can't ever afford any holidays
- I don't talk about my sport projects to a friend who has multiple sclerosis and who hardly walks
- ....


If infertility didn't come to my life, I would probably be the same as most people. But now I am not. I am glad to have this feeling what to say (or not to say) to people. I like to be compassionate. But sometimes it makes me angry - why can't the rest of the world be compassionate with me?  




Saturday, December 9, 2017

After many years of waiting, I have wonderful news!!!

We got a building permit!!!
We are very very happy :)

There are many things I am looking forward to. Most of all is having more spacious living room & a guest bedroom. The first overseas friends have already booked their stay for 2019 :)

Thursday, December 7, 2017

A granny


I just love this FB find. So, I plan to be a Granny one day :)

For now I am only an awesome auntie. Few days ago I took five nieces and nephews (aged from 4 to 10) with train to the capital (kids love train rides) and took them to museum of natural history. The mission there was to see the mammoth skeleton and touch its tooth.

Then  we visited the national gallery. The kids had a mission to ask someone working there where is one particular painting is and then find it (=a painting of a famous painter who lived in our town 100 years ago). We did find it.

On the way there one of the kids noticed this painting and asked me why why the baby was lying on the floor. Then all the kids started to ask me this question. So I said to them to sit on the floor, in front of the painting and I told them the story about the judgement of Solomon. The kids really listened.  I loved that moment, it was just priceless.



Then, before going home I showed the kids also this painting that I love so much:





The title of the painting is "Kofetarica" which in our language means "a lady who loves drinking coffee".  I asked the kids how does this lady look like. And they used great adjectives: happy, smiling, content. Then I asked them why was she happy. They thought for a while and then a boy, aged 5 replied: "Because she doesn't have kids." It was such a funny answer... I am sure the answer was based on the painting "Judgement of Solomon".

So I explained them my version of why she is happy. Because she loves small luxuries like driking coffee and since she has it, she is happy. If you know how to enjoy small things, you will always be happy. 

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Letting go

I am currently reading a book written by this author:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alojz_Ihan

I found there a sentence that I just love:
"If you know how to let go, you make room for something new, something that you might never expected nor planned."

So beautiful and so very true! 

I guess I have written more then once that I really like to talk with old people. I can learn so much from them.

In September, I spent a day with an almost 80-year-old lady from Australia and her three children (one of her children is my bloggie friend).  There were moments that it was only me, walking the streets of a beautiful city and talking with the old lady. And she was explaining me how she doesn't need a lot of her stuff so she is giving all away. She gave a beautiful set of cups to one daughter, a vase to another daughter, a painting to her son etc..

This made me think. If you don't have children of your own, whom do you give things?  In that moment I decided that the best solution for me is not to buy unnecessary things.

And in the little house we are planning to build, there won't be any large storage unit.

I just loved Infertile Phoenix's post: https://infertilephoenix.blogspot.si/2017/11/facing-my-stuff-part-ii.html

I met the old Australian lady (and her children) few days after our first meeting. When I arrived, she was just finishing writing a postcard to her priest. And she showed me the postcard where she wrote: "we were in Slovenia where we met my oldest daugther's lovely friend, Klara".

It was touching to see that meeting was not special only to me.




Saturday, November 18, 2017

Lago di Garda / Lake Garda






On weeks like this I just love my job. Here are some photos that I did on my latest business tip. Lake Garda is one of my favourite parts of the world (that I have seen so far). 

I had some time off so I phoned the man that I met almost three years ago:
https://thenext15000days.blogspot.si/2015/03/i-can-see-that-you-dont-have-children.html

and I invited him for a walk. It was a lovely walk, we talked a lot.  It is so nice to talk to somebody who is much older and wiser.

He got back the medical results one day after we met so I called him yesterday, just to check.

He said: "The results are not good, but they will have to be good." Meaning it is what it is and he has to make the most out of life he has.

Just like the rest of us. 

When walking and talking with him I realized (once again) that time is all we have.